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PARTS OF A RELATIONSHIP

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PARTS OF A RELATIONSHIP

Recently, I’ve thought a lot about the subject of “relationships”, in an attempt to live my own life on Earth.  One of the most joyful and agonizing experiences in existence is the successful creation and maintenance of a “relationship”.   It is easy enough to withdraw from relationships and simply give up on them because they can be painful, confusing, frustrating and a lot of hard work!   In human society it is very commonly the source of turmoil, destruction and unhappiness.  If anyone has any more ideas about how to have a successful relationship, I’d like to know….

Here are a few definitions that I think are the most important parts of a “relationship”, in relative order of importance:

RELATIONSHIP

noun:   a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional connection)

COMMUNICATION

  • noun:   a connection allowing access between persons or places

UNDERSTANDING

  • noun:   an inclination to support or be loyal to or to agree with an opinion

  • noun:   the statement (oral or written) of an exchange of promise

  • adjective:   characterized by understanding based on comprehension and discernment and empathy

RESPONSIBILITY

  • noun:   a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or being responsible for one’s conduct

  • noun:   the social force that binds you to your obligations and the courses of action demanded by that force

FREEDOM

  • noun:   the condition of being free; the power to act or speak or think without externally imposed restraints

  • noun:   immunity from an obligation or duty

WISDOM

  • noun:   accumulated knowledge or erudition or enlightenment

REALITY

  • noun:   the state of the world as it really is rather than as you might want it to be

LOVE

  • noun:   any object of warm affection or devotion

SEX

  • noun:   all of the feelings resulting from the urge to gratify sexual impulses

QUANTITY OR QUALITY?

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I’m not a very fast reader, but I’m a very thorough reader.  As a writer of books I learned to hard way that it is vitally important to use the exact word, in the correct context, you intend your reader to understand.

Therefore, I take care to understand each word I’m reading.  What’s the point of reading if you don’t understand — or misunderstand — what you’ve read?

When was the last time you used a dictionary?  If you don’t know the meaning of each word in the sentence, you won’t understand the sentence.  Simple.

Reading is a form of communication.  Our environment is saturated with verbal, visual, musical and printed communication.  Too much communication prevents communication. We can’t process all of it, so we begin to ignore it, reject it and treat it all the same.  When that happens we loose are ability to differential, which is our ability to reason and make rational judgements.

A good rule of thumb about reading is this “QUALITY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN QUANTITY“.

The “Dumbing Down of America” (and the world) is happening because we are reading more quantity, but the quality is dwindling grammatically.  The content of Twitter, television, films and popular media is diminishing our ability to evaluate the relative value and validity of information.  Are minds are literally being drowned in drivel!  The Draconian education policy of  “No Child Left Behind” is designed to drag everyone down to a level of  dim-witted incompetence.

Don’t fall for this bullshit.  Understand what you read.

Here is a great tool to measure your reading speed and comprehension:

ereader test